As children were told to follow our dreams and go for whatever we want in life. And I do think that's a great attribute to teach your children as it encourages and drives them to better themselves, and to learn and experience as much as possible. But now as I've got older I can also see the downside of setting goals. I feel that there is no problem in having big dreams, however I think that it is SO important to learn how to be realistic when setting those.
There is no better feeling than when you achieve a goal you have set yourself, actually I think it's probably the most satisfying feeling you can ever get. But when you don't achieve your goal or when you realize and have to accept that the dream you've been chasing will never come true its probably the worst feeling you can have, especially if that dream is one you have been chasing for years.
I can understand why people do give up on things if they become tough or they see their dreams slipping away. It takes a strong person to keep going when it seems like everything is against them. I wonder how many dreams people have given up on because of this. Luckily for me I realized from a young age that I was never going to be a pop star, actress or model so I don't have to worry about that. But some people have to achieve their dreams, the world will always need celebrities so someones got to make the cut.
The reason I started to think about this whole topic more is because I've started to realize that one of my dreams may not turn out quite how I wanted it to, and it has really got to me. I hate failing at things, I've never been good at admitting defeat. I'm very overcritical of myself anyway, so when I fail I always take it out hard on myself and question what I could have done differently. I know that this can sometimes be a good thing because you can better yourself and learn from your mistakes. But when you actually haven't made any mistakes and the reason your dream cant come true is because of something out of your control then it makes it even harder to accept.
I'll still continue setting myself goals because they keep me driven, give me a sense of perspective and something to aim for. But from now on I will defiantly think more carefully about things that could go wrong and maybe not set my heart on it coming true. That might even make that satisfying feeling even greater if I do achieve that goal then.
Even though I've realized that my dream may not quite turn out how I planned I'm still defiantly chasing it and it WILL come true one day. It's just going to take a little bit longer than I thought and take more hard work, but I am not admitting defeat just yet. Its strange when your feeling down you remember the strangest things and they can help you so much. I was in the shower (where I do my best thinking) and I remembered something my Great Grandma told me one day when I told her what I wanted to do when I grow up and said I didn't think I could do it. It instantly made me happy and restored the faith I had lost. Its so true when people say the older you get the wiser you get. So I've restored that drive and ambition and I'm going for my dream, I wont stop until I achieve it.
Here are my Great Grandma's amazing wise words:
''There's nothing wrong with having big dreams... Whats wrong is not doing all you can to make them come true''
Flossy x
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